Monday, June 30, 2014



There is nothing more disheartening than the elusive recruiter, especially one you like. You call, you email – nothing. Ouch.

But don’t despair, check that box and move on. (sort of like dating) Don’t badger them or try and make them feel guilty. “Recruiters are probably receiving an average of 250 resumes,” points out Ryan Kahn of the Hired Group.  He thinks you should give them seven to ten days to get back to you and then you can send a gentle reminder that you’re interested in the position and you’re just following up to make sure they received your information. 

A couple of Ryan’s dos are:
1.     Go beyond job boards. Pick 20 companies you like, go to the site and figure out how to meet one person at this company, you can try emailing them to begin a conversation, maybe eventually have a coffee. The benefit in this could take six months when the right job for you comes up.
2.     Do flip the script, instead of asking how they can benefit you? What can you do for them in the way of contacts? This way you become a facilitator, you’re helping them.
3.     Do use Linkedin, it’s a good way to find people at the companies you like or who knows whom, this can lead to a contact or a reference.
The bitter truth – while Kahn responds to everyone, some recruiters are just not that into you because there’s a job that’ll yield a higher commission that’s more worth their while.

A talent recruiter at a major public relations firm suggests that you check in after a week. A good candidate will ask about timing before leaving the interview. Some of his dos are:
1.     Over prepare for every interview. Research, research. “You’d be surprised how many come to interviews unprepared.”
2.     Tell the truth, some candidates use a bit of hyperbole – sales numbers go up, wins are embellished and there’s more “I” than “We”.
3.     Do know when it’s time to move on after due diligence and follow up calls and still nothing, it’s hard to do but keep going.
4.     Do understand that recruiters are overwhelmed but he says, “There is no excuse for recruiters to be lazy. We have to make time and put ourselves into candidates shoes.”
The bitter truth – When someone doesn’t get back to you, he would take it as a slight but advises that you cast a wide but selective net so that you don’t become overly consumed by someone’s lack of professional courtesy.

Good luck and find recruiters who like your shoes enough to stand in them; maybe it’s all about style after all. (The Manolo Blahnik sale starts today.)

What do you think?

Friday, June 20, 2014

Q-Tips Are Not To Be Used On The Q Train or Any Other Train By Yvonne

A fellow subway passenger sitting across from me had a funny look on his face. I looked to my right, and my seat mate was going to town in his ear with a swab.  I noticed an object in his left hand. It looked like a hearing device.  His cleansing could have been a necessity - maybe he couldn't hear. 

This a special case and sometimes one has to do what they have to do. But there is no reason to go digging in public. 

Sunday, June 1, 2014


Am I the only one that finds it odd that people “like” bad news or deaths on Facebook? Just this morning I saw a posting about a landlord in the Bronx caught discriminating against black apartment seekers. It got three likes! I commented – “What’s there to like about this?”

Someone died? People “like” it. Are they liking that they learned the news or do they “like” that person dead?

There’s been a lot of liking surrounding the passing of Maya Angelou but posts I’ve seen are expressing her accomplishments, her bon mots, for those I wish there were a “love” button.

Question: What do you think? What do you “like”?

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Monday, May 5, 2014


1.     A neighbor letting her dog relieve himself in the entrance of the building.
2.     A man leaving a building and announcing his departure with a big spit.
3.     A large, young lady standing in the doorway of the bus with no intentions of making room for exiting passengers.
4.     A man in a bar acting like he wanted something when all he wanted to do was use the bathroom. He left his kid at the bar making it look like the kid wanted something.
5.     A young man with a huge backpack doing a 360 on a packed train.
6.     A woman getting on a bus with a cane and no one budged (I would have but I was standing up.)
7.     A cashier giving me my change and saying, “Thanks, hon.”
8.     A couple hugging and kissing at the top of the steps leading to the train station. Oh, did I mention they were leaning against the handrail?
9.     A woman coughing without covering her mouth.  (I nicely asked her to cover her mouth, and she did!)
10.  Since I doubt she reads my blog, my neighbor thinks the table in our hallway was put there expressly to store strollers underneath. The rent’s too damn high for that kind of mess!

Question:  What have you seen in the last ten days that strikes you as rudeness?

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Wednesday, April 23, 2014


A colleague told me that a woman sitting near his desk cracked her knuckles all day long. She has it down to a science. Apparently, she’s found a way to use just her thumb to crack all her knuckles in one fell crack!
She doesn’t have a clue how annoying her sound effects are to people around her.

I remember being warned that the more you crack your knuckles the bigger they become. It’s also believed that it could cause arthritis. Not.

Unfortunately, I have no advice for you. I don’t know what you should say to a serial knuckle cracker. If he/she is a close friend or relative, I guess you could tell them how annoying it is.  But what would you say to a colleague or your boss? I’m taking suggestions.

So, to knuckle crackers, think before you crack next time in the company of others.

Sunday, April 13, 2014


Recently, I met E!’s Alicia Quarles. She’s pretty and pretty nice and very well mannered. You know how some people think and act like they’re FABULOUS? Not Alicia, but she is. And if you ever see her enjoying a meal with her husband or just living her life in the city, she won’t mind you approaching her, she figures she’s in your living room, why not?
Of course, we would like you to use discretion, at least let her finish chewing.

What do celebrities do that you wish they wouldn’t?
My number one pet peeve with celebrities is when they walk into a room and say hello only to me. The A-Listers get it. They’ll greet everyone, from the producer to the sound man. Acknowledging the hard work of others is real class.

Have you ever-encountered poor manners from someone you were interviewing?
Another pet peeve is lateness. Once, a celebrity was so late, I cancelled the interview. I let their reps know that money was wasted and not just my time but the entire camera crew’s time. The next day, the celebrity came to my office and apologized and delivered a bottle of wine.
Wouldn’t you love to know who it was? But since Alicia has manners, she won’t tell. 

 How do you feel about asking personal questions? I never begin an interview by asking personal questions. On those rare occasions when I’ve been directed to ask something I truly didn’t feel appropriate, I’ll say, “I’m not comfortable asking this, because (then I outline the reasons).” It’s a lot about instinct, I feel it out and that tells me whether to “go there” or not.”

 What were some of the golden rules of etiquette in your home?
My parents taught us that appearance was very important, not in a vain way but they believed that you don’t get a second chance to make an impression. We had to dress for occasions properly, (not easy for me, I was a tomboy).
You’d never know it. 

What was an absolute no-no?
No elbows on the table! My parents also taught us what cutlery to use and how to use it. It’s paid off. I have good table manners.
Too bad her table manners aren't contagious.

What do you think of young people with respect to etiquette?
I’m impressed with the degree of etiquette today’s young people have. Young folks are portrayed as being a generation of disrespectful people who don't have manners but nothing could be further from the truth. What I've learned from my observations is that teens today generally do have etiquette, even if they are glued to their phones.
 Nice to hear someone say something nice about young people.

Sunday, March 23, 2014

When Children Sit Still In The Wrong Place By Yvonne

I watched these two kids sit in seats reserved for the elderly and disabled. Neither child fit these criteria. They sat quietly and well behaved as seniors walked by searching for seats. One woman looked as if she were about to ask, thought about it and moved on.

Their mother was sitting nearby. Most likely she suggested they sit there, this way she could see them. I get it, to her it's a safety measure. To me, it's a shame. And then we wonder why adults displaying poor manners day in and day out is the status quo.

I'm sure they were good kids, they were just doing what they were told. That, they did.