Sunday, September 27, 2015


From what I gathered, someone was about to get their feelings hurt. My fellow elevator passenger, a neighbor (we don’t know each other) was advising that they keep the ring until they’re sure.  Something about me must’ve seemed trustworthy as she proceeded to put someone’s business out on the street in an elevator. Beware, you never know who’s on the elevator with you, she could be an etiquette blogger!

I couldn’t figure out who was on the other end or how upset they were.  That’s the problem with halfersations; you’ll never get the whole story, she went on and on with her half.  She didn’t even bother to whisper an apology.  If you have to take a call, keep it brief and let the caller know you’re on an elevator. To continue a conversation while others are on an elevator is a downright diss to them - they don't matter.

Chatty Cathy remained on the elevator and continued to advise the ring bearer. I'll never know the outcome and I don't care.  All I do know, she is one rude neighbor.

Sunday, September 13, 2015

Mind If I Don't Mind My Manners? By Yvonne

What happened to the civilized world while we were on sabbatical?  Such horrors!

A wonderful dip being assaulted by shameless double dipping! 

Men and women becoming motionless doormen as they block exit doors on buses and look at you funny when you say, “Excuse me." The nerve!

A woman sitting in the window of a sandwich shop, flossing her teeth!

Younger men looking at their feet as elderly women and men stand on their feet!

The list goes on and on. 

Pictured, a young woman, so tuckered out from her weekend, decided to make herself at home (no doubt, in her home it was fine to put your feet on the furniture with shoes on) on a crowded train.  When the conductor asked her to sit up, it didn’t occur to her to wipe off the seat for a fellow passenger.

Have you seen any good or bad manners recently?  Do tell.

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Saturday, August 15, 2015


We were on sabbatical and then the summer came along.  Mind your manners until we come back in the fall, when we will attempt to mine them for you.

Quick Tips:

  • Remember to take your makeup off so you won't leave your mark on the pillowcase.
  • Even if you don't want to, offer to help.
  • Don't bring your cell phone to the table with you. (if your host is that boring, you shouldn't be there)
  • Until you're invited to help yourself to food and drink, always ask. 
  • Leave poolside the way you found it.


Friday, May 15, 2015

When Your Lunch Becomes Rude By Yvonne

Last week, at a doctor’s office, the receptionist greeted me looking suspiciously like a cow. She appeared to be chewing on something and then commenced to clean her lunch away in her mouth with her tongue and making noises clearing food between her teeth all the while asking me questions.  It seems to be a common habit in small shops – the lone salesperson serving customers and polishing off lunch at the same time.

This awful, rude practice must stop immediately. A cow would never think of imitating you.

Tuesday, April 28, 2015


            On April 21st, I wrote a post on applause from the point of view of an audience member. This week, a dancer is gives his thoughts on the subject.  I promised him that I wouldn’t reveal his name.  All I can divulge is that he’s one of the finest dancers in the world and has been a principal dancer at two of the leading ballet companies in the world.

Do you think any time is the right time for applause?

I think that if someone wants to applaud because they are moved or excited, they should.  Although sometimes it can get out of hand and in the past I have wondered if a triple pirouette really moved someone so much they had to applaud.  I don't want to tamper anyone's enthusiasm for the art form, but frequent outbursts can distract from the overall performance.  I tend to think if something is extraordinary then go for it, if not save it for when they finish so everyone in the audience can appreciate their performance in a complete and full form.  

Has clapping ever affected your performance?

Audience clapping can have a dual affect.  It can take you out of your concentration, or it can bolster your performance even more.  As a performer, we crave to make the audience excited, or have them feel an emotion, essentially to take them to another place in their mind.  Sometimes this comes out as applause, and when it's right it can be amazing to feel the audience participation.  

What kind of audience to you consider ideal?

 I have performed all over the world.  Each audience is different.  In addition, an audience is made up of many people from unique backgrounds, so it's very difficult to say what an ideal audience is because appreciation is shown in many different ways.  In general, an appreciative, enthusiastic audience is ideal.  Like sports, not everyone is a season ticket holder who comes to the ballet every night.  However, if the audience gets invested in the art on stage, and acquires some new knowledge and appreciation, and reflects that in their response, then that is my ideal audience.  

Tuesday, April 21, 2015


The other night, I had the pleasure of going to the ballet.  There were pieces I liked, and pieces I didn’t like.  When I liked a particular piece, I would clap at the end of it.  I tend not to clap while someone is still performing because I don't want to do anything that could be disruptive to the performer or to fellow audience members.   That night, dancers didn’t have to do so much as lift their legs up high, and there was thunderous applause.  

I asked a good friend and ballet enthusiast his thoughts on when to clap and not to clap.
“I think it goes beyond etiquette and people knowledgeable about ballet get it – dancers have to hear the music to keep time. That’s hard to do over applause,” he explained.

He does agree it’s hard not to applaud for a phenomenal pirouette or pas de deux giving dancers a rush from the show of appreciation.  “But one should take care not to drown out the music,” he pointed out.

The same goes for opera, best to save the applause at the end and not after every high note.  Nothing terrible will happen for clapping when the feeling hits you but holding applause could make something wonderful happen – such as a magnificent, uninterrupted performance.

Tuesday, March 31, 2015


“What does “Yelp” mean?” asked a friend whose first language is French.  “It’s what little dogs do to get attention,” I explained.  And then I yelped a few times to demonstrate to her how annoying it is. And so are many comments on Yelp.  They are also mean, spiteful and are the handiwork of people with not much going on in their lives except to try and gain some kind of voice by trashing establishments and the people who work in them.  

Yelpers, I learned will actually post their negative review while sitting in the very restaurant. Question – if it’s so horrible why are you still there?  Why not pay the bill, stiff the server and go away? Or speak to the manager and give him/her the chance to make the situation right.

Resorting to Yelp is cowardly and worst, puts you in the class of cyber bullies.  Thankfully, restaurants can’t commit suicide but horrible things have happened to individuals because of the cyber bully culture.

Not all Yelpers are mean. Many take the time to point out the good in their experiences. They don’t yelp at the help.  They get pleasure out of writing something good.  They are from the old school.  “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.”