Thursday, November 17, 2016

THIS THANKSGIVING: DON'T BE A TURKEY

And we're off and running. The holiday season kicks off next week with Thanksgiving. Some of us will spend the most time we've ever spent all year round in our kitchens basting, chopping, stirring and hoping that it all turns out well. We thought we'd whip up some dos and don'ts for both hosts and guests.

For hosts...
  • Do be honest, if a guest asks what should they bring, tell them. Nothing worse than seeing your supply of wine and champagne dwindle, sparkling cider just isn't the same.
  • Be ready to receive guests, they shouldn't see you sweating over the bird. Don't make them feel compelled to help out with the dinner - they came to eat, not prepare.
  • Try not to give a blow by blow of the dinner's preparation. e.g. "I made the stuffing at midnight! I got up at the crack of dawn to boil the sweet potatoes." There is an excellent book, Timing Is Everything by Jack Piccolo.
  • Speaking of timing, if you've asked guests to come at five o'clock don't make them wait until seven o'clock to eat.
  • Do plan a balanced, well rounded menu. You want your guests to have enough food, but ten different things to eat could turn into a mishmosh of mismatched flavors and actually begin to look like mush on a plate.
  • Let guests eat in peace. No need to keep asking them if they need anything.
  • Be gracious when your cooking is complimented. No one will know you left out the thyme unless you tell them.
  • If you discover that someone is a vegan, don't make a big deal out of it. They'll know to skip the macaroni and cheese.
  • When it's time to clear the table, try not to enlist the help of every guest at the table. And don't disappear into the kitchen to wash the dishes. This looks like you're trying to get a leg up on things. That's rude. (If you have a small kitchen, loading the dishwasher is okay but don't run it.)
  • Toast your guests, thank them for being part of the day.
  • Try not to yawn in front of your company. This may look like you're bored or sleepy.
For guests...
  • Don't be late. There is no excuse.
  • Even if your hosts said they don't need anything, take a bottle of something or a small gift.
  • If you've offered to bring a dessert, bring dessert not a platter of deviled eggs as a surprise.
  • We like flowers but if you're being hosted by someone who's doing all the work, consider an arrangement so that they won't have to stop and tend to the flowers.
  • Offer to help but don't barge into the kitchen and start doing things.
  • Don't just grab a seat at the table, your host may have a seating plan.
  • Before the meal, wash your hands without making a general announcement.
  • Turn off your cellphone.
  • Don't talk about how much you love dressing with oysters when there is no oyster dressing on the table.
  • Let your host know in advance if you have dietary restrictions. Don't talk about your diet and how you're being a bad girl as you butter your second roll.
  • Dress appropriately, not every day is a jeans day.
  • If you have a lonely friend with no place to go, don't invite them along hoping that your host will understand. Your friend will only feel lonelier when there's no seat for him/her at the table.
  • Give thanks and toast your hosts.
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     PEACE
     

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

THE EVILS OF EMAIL By Yvonne

TWOT! For a split second I thought my friend was calling a former friend a bad name, as I had described an email they'd sent  me. I called it an evilmail.

 “TWOT?” “The Wonders of Technology,” she explained. “People don’t think they have to pick up the phone anymore, just send an email or a text for anything – an apology, a thank-you, an issue they’re having with you, etc. Why be a grown up or display manners and pick up the phone?”



That people hide behind their emails is nothing new. We’ve all received that email that makes us scratch our head and then reply making the other person scratch their head because of course every word they wrote was right. And if it hurt, well they didn’t write it for their health or maybe they did, they needed to unload. So, somewhere in the middle of the night they decided to hijack your inbox.

What many don’t understand in this TWOT age is that vicious email you self-righteously sent is modern day bullying. Bullying today has little to do with schoolyard beefs. It can prove to be dangerous.

Think before you send. Do you really want those words to last forever? Would you want that email forwarded to people you don’t know and now they know something about you that they didn’t before? In this litigious society we live in, you don’t want to see a print out of that email presented during a deposition.

TWOT is here to stay, and so is every email we send.

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Fork and Knife, How To Use Them

How to Eat 101

https://youtu.be/bfePkNUYJW8

Tuesday, May 3, 2016

DON’T LET YOUR FOOD TRAP TRAP YOU INTO BAD MANNERS By Yvonne

 
           
Foods such as broccoli, artichokes and salad greens like traps.
There's nothing more annoying than enjoying a nice meal in a restaurant and it happens – food gets stuck between your teeth.  You just want to go in and dig it out, many do. I saw a man this morning going to town with a toothpick in his mouth. We’ve discussed using toothpicks in public before, why they’re on the table, we don’t understand because no one not even the owner of a restaurant wants to see you digging in with a toothpick.
            The best thing to do is to go into the bathroom and remove it. Try not to get a jump on it and sit at the table moving your tongue furiously or sucking your teeth around the trap to clear it.  Try your very best to not take it out with your fingers while still at the table, it’s very tempting because you want it over and out.
            Buon Appetito!
           

Thursday, April 14, 2016

WHAT DO YOU SAY WHEN… BY YVONNE


…someone tells you that you smell like their grandmother?

The receptionist at the doctor’s office could not have been nicer; she patiently made calls searching for records lost in the system. She took a pause to spit into a bottle. When she did that a second time, I asked her if she was all right. She explained that she was pregnant with her second child and had hypersalivation.  All I could say was, “Oh.” I wanted suggest that she turn away when she spits but I needed those records.



Happy that she located them, she told me, “You smell like my grandmother.” I was speechless. I never equated my grandmother to any kind of smell outside of the kitchen where the aroma of  her chicken and dumplings ruled, but I wasn’t wearing Eau de Chicken and Dumplings. 

“What do you mean?” I asked.
“Whatever you’re wearing, it smells like her.”
“It reminds me of my grandmother, she died and I’m getting sentimental.”

I thanked her for her patience and wished her well. I hope she teaches her children to think before they speak, impress upon them the importance of language and social skills and to never spit in public or at their desks.