Monday, August 11, 2014


Since many seems to be minding their manners. We're going to take advantage and go mine some more etiquette tips.

Thursday, August 7, 2014


            Not much. The other day I was facing a woman in a restaurant. No problem with that, she had her table and I had mine. It was a pretty nice place and I was looking forward to a quiet lunch.
            All was going well until I looked up from my smoked salmon and noticed that the woman was busy picking her teeth with a toothpick (Either she brought her own or asked because there were none on the table.)
            What a dreadful sight to behold. She was just diggin’ a way. I guess she didn’t consider going to the restroom to really get down to business.
The expression of Her Majesty demonstrates brilliantly how I feel about the picking of teeth in public.
            There’s nothing to say to someone who uses toothpicks at a table, unless you know them well, very well.  Now, if a particle of the woman’s lunch came flying over to my table, I wouldn’t hesitate to say, “Excuse me, Miss, a piece of your lunch is now on mine. I wish you wouldn’t do that at the table.”  Maybe I should lose the last part? Or maybe the part about the piece of lunch?
            Oh, I don’t know what I would say.  I give up on public tooth picking pickers.           

Friday, August 1, 2014


I’ve been spending some time on the Hampton Jitney and I’ve seen some disturbing behavior.

What is about the Jitney that makes people so ill mannered?  The pretzels? Is the juice not up to their liking?

One woman could barely get a thank you out of her mouth. When asked if she’d like water, she answered, “Make it two.”  No “please”, no “thank you”. Her daughter’s made herself comfortable with her feet on the seat; the soles of her flip-flops were filthy.  Note to self – no white jeans on the Jitney. The attendant came through a couple of times with a trash bag, you wouldn’t have known for all the empty bottles, newspapers, and wrappers she and her daughter left behind.

On another trip, I sat across the aisle from a father and son. The father was dressed casually chic, the son quietly focused on his iPad.  When they got off the bus, the mess they left behind, was, well, a mess. (See photo)  I shudder to think of what their housekeeper meets every time she walks into their home.

Could it be that it’s the least expensive of all the coaches in the Jitney family that makes people forget their manners? Do they have them in the first place?

I don’t think so, I think it’s about people who are used to having others pick up their mess without ever expressing gratitude or appreciation. It’s enough to give you the jitters.

Monday, June 30, 2014



There is nothing more disheartening than the elusive recruiter, especially one you like. You call, you email – nothing. Ouch.

But don’t despair, check that box and move on. (sort of like dating) Don’t badger them or try and make them feel guilty. “Recruiters are probably receiving an average of 250 resumes,” points out Ryan Kahn of the Hired Group.  He thinks you should give them seven to ten days to get back to you and then you can send a gentle reminder that you’re interested in the position and you’re just following up to make sure they received your information. 

A couple of Ryan’s dos are:
1.     Go beyond job boards. Pick 20 companies you like, go to the site and figure out how to meet one person at this company, you can try emailing them to begin a conversation, maybe eventually have a coffee. The benefit in this could take six months when the right job for you comes up.
2.     Do flip the script, instead of asking how they can benefit you? What can you do for them in the way of contacts? This way you become a facilitator, you’re helping them.
3.     Do use Linkedin, it’s a good way to find people at the companies you like or who knows whom, this can lead to a contact or a reference.
The bitter truth – while Kahn responds to everyone, some recruiters are just not that into you because there’s a job that’ll yield a higher commission that’s more worth their while.

A talent recruiter at a major public relations firm suggests that you check in after a week. A good candidate will ask about timing before leaving the interview. Some of his dos are:
1.     Over prepare for every interview. Research, research. “You’d be surprised how many come to interviews unprepared.”
2.     Tell the truth, some candidates use a bit of hyperbole – sales numbers go up, wins are embellished and there’s more “I” than “We”.
3.     Do know when it’s time to move on after due diligence and follow up calls and still nothing, it’s hard to do but keep going.
4.     Do understand that recruiters are overwhelmed but he says, “There is no excuse for recruiters to be lazy. We have to make time and put ourselves into candidates shoes.”
The bitter truth – When someone doesn’t get back to you, he would take it as a slight but advises that you cast a wide but selective net so that you don’t become overly consumed by someone’s lack of professional courtesy.

Good luck and find recruiters who like your shoes enough to stand in them; maybe it’s all about style after all. (The Manolo Blahnik sale starts today.)

What do you think?

Friday, June 20, 2014

Q-Tips Are Not To Be Used On The Q Train or Any Other Train By Yvonne

A fellow subway passenger sitting across from me had a funny look on his face. I looked to my right, and my seat mate was going to town in his ear with a swab.  I noticed an object in his left hand. It looked like a hearing device.  His cleansing could have been a necessity - maybe he couldn't hear. 

This a special case and sometimes one has to do what they have to do. But there is no reason to go digging in public. 

Sunday, June 1, 2014


Am I the only one that finds it odd that people “like” bad news or deaths on Facebook? Just this morning I saw a posting about a landlord in the Bronx caught discriminating against black apartment seekers. It got three likes! I commented – “What’s there to like about this?”

Someone died? People “like” it. Are they liking that they learned the news or do they “like” that person dead?

There’s been a lot of liking surrounding the passing of Maya Angelou but posts I’ve seen are expressing her accomplishments, her bon mots, for those I wish there were a “love” button.

Question: What do you think? What do you “like”?

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Monday, May 5, 2014


1.     A neighbor letting her dog relieve himself in the entrance of the building.
2.     A man leaving a building and announcing his departure with a big spit.
3.     A large, young lady standing in the doorway of the bus with no intentions of making room for exiting passengers.
4.     A man in a bar acting like he wanted something when all he wanted to do was use the bathroom. He left his kid at the bar making it look like the kid wanted something.
5.     A young man with a huge backpack doing a 360 on a packed train.
6.     A woman getting on a bus with a cane and no one budged (I would have but I was standing up.)
7.     A cashier giving me my change and saying, “Thanks, hon.”
8.     A couple hugging and kissing at the top of the steps leading to the train station. Oh, did I mention they were leaning against the handrail?
9.     A woman coughing without covering her mouth.  (I nicely asked her to cover her mouth, and she did!)
10.  Since I doubt she reads my blog, my neighbor thinks the table in our hallway was put there expressly to store strollers underneath. The rent’s too damn high for that kind of mess!

Question:  What have you seen in the last ten days that strikes you as rudeness?

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