Wednesday, June 29, 2011


Apparently, it’s not up to you. Just this morning, a woman was standing on line with sweat dripping from her chin! She had no shame or towel. She was perfectly at ease having strutted her sweat from the cycling place (the cool place to be these days) a few doors away.

A runner friend of ours confessed to once going into a coffee shop after a run and sensed that it was rude. “I grabbed a bunch of napkins and wiped off as best I could before I got on line.” 

If gyms demand that we wipe down the equipment after use, should coffee shops and restaurants demand that those who are fresh from exercising wipe off before entering? YES. Many of these offenders think nothing of taking a seat to enjoy their beverage without considering that the next person who comes along may not want to sit on a moist seat. Seems like with pumped up endorphins comes a sense of pumped up entitlement.

There’s little recourse when you see someone sweating like the lady on line this morning. No doubt, they would be offended if you offered them a tissue. They know they’re sweating, they paid good money for it. So, we suggest that you look the other way and before you sit down, wipe off your seat. Don’t do it with a look of disdain or shaking your head furiously. Accept that it’s just another example of how anything seems to go these days, even a dripping chin near food.

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Ticket Please, But Not From Your Mouth

We have learned that one of the most unpleasant things that can happen to an airline ticket agent is when a passenger loaded with baggage hands him/her a ticket that was held in his/her mouth as they approached the counter. We've heard of hand to mouth but mouth to hand, the hand of another person?

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

The Open Door Policy

A good and frustrated friend of ours suggested this post. He's not frustrated with his life nor doors per se, he just doesn't understand why many women can't seem to manage to thank him when he holds a door open for them. We don't get it either. "I wouldn't dare say anything because that wouldn't be gentlemanly, but it's getting annoying," he added. He's not alone. "The worst ones are the women so busy on their cell phones, it's as if you don't exist and the door opened on its own," pointed out another gentleman we know. He knows he shouldn't but on occasion he's yelled, "You're welcome." 

We've probably all been "doormen" at a certain point. The classic, is at an entrance to a department store when due to good manners you hold the door for one person and suddenly you're it for throngs of shoppers. And not one person thanks you for it.

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Ladies, in case you're wondering where all the gentlemen are these days, they're at the door  wondering where are all the ladies.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Huma Abedin Doesn’t Need Friends’ Opinions

We had planned to write a post about inappropriate questions people innocently ask men and women who are not in relationships, e.g. “Why don’t you have anyone?” That tops our silly question list and we will get back to it.

On Monday, a politician, Ms. Abedin’s husband, Anthony Weiner, admitted to inappropriate behavior.

We hope that distant acquaintances aren’t trying to reach out her to find out more dirt. This happened to Yvonne years ago when she was humiliated by a boyfriend. He married another woman and didn’t get around to telling her. As news of the marriage spread, people Yvonne hadn’t heard from in years began to call as if they’d by chance ran across her phone number. She appreciated the friends who stayed close to her without a word or very few. “I knew there were real friends and my family standing close by, ready to catch me if I fell.”

We hope that instead of an email, friends and associates and even so-called friends will reach out to her with kind, supportive words on paper.

We hope that they are not offering suggestions as to what she should do about him or their marriage, unless she's asked.

And we hope they are not calling him names and sharing them with her. He’s her husband, with all due respect.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Dining With Pushers

(Photo Courtesy of Paul Zara)

We should never push another person, dope or food. If the pusher at your table is under ten and belongs to you, say something. Otherwise, say nothing. Some things just aren't worth pushing.