Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Re-gifting: Beware, It Can Go South by Yvonne

A very good friend of mine visited me last Christmas holiday. She'd just come from another mutual friend's home and he'd given her a gift.
Photo by allerleirau


"What's that in the bag?" I asked, knowing it wasn't for me. We'd already exchanged gifts.
 "It's a gift from HIM." (From here on he shall be referred to as The Re-Gift Guy.)

She whipped two books out of the bag, one was about Dorothy Parker and looked very familiar. I literally snatched it out of her hands to study it up close, page after page.

"He gave that to me last Christmas. I left it at his house by mistake!"
"You're kidding."
"No, I'm serious. In fact, last year both of these gifts were mine. I can't believe him."

The Re-Gift Guy had made the ultimate error in giving, he kept giving but the same thing to a different person. He was well-intentioned and maybe a bit forgetful.  But, for once my memory, a little foggy at times, didn't fail me. I'm a fierce Dorothy Parker fan.

So, to all the Re-Gift Guys and Girls out there, beware! Keep a list of those spare gifts you find around the house. Maybe there was a reason it was in a bag along with some used ribbon.

And remember that social networking will betray you in a click with people boasting and posting what they got for Christmas and Hanukkah.  Re-gifting isn't the worst thing you can do but it sure could end up being the most embarrassing.  Shhh, not a word to The Re-Gift Guy.

2 comments:

Ameena Meer said...

hmm. i am actually a FAN of regifting. for instance, if someone gives me something i don't want or need, rather than hoarding it, i should pass it on. when my kids were little and got hundreds of barbies or 15 copies of "where the wild things are," i passed them on to homeless shelters or places where they bring kids in limbo. i can see that it could be hurtful, but in these new days of thrift and eco-consciousness, there is a value to reducing your stuff. http://www.good.is/post/i-endorse-re-gifting-gift-recycling-gets-a-green-re-frame/

Ameena Meer said...

wrote a long response and it was eaten by blogspot.

so here's someone else's thoughts

http://www.good.is/post/i-endorse-re-gifting-gift-recycling-gets-a-green-re-frame/